What To Do When My Son Starts Biting His Buddies?

Are you worried because your child has a habit of biting? It’s weird to think about it, but kids usually bite. For some reason, children are tempted to bite other people, whether it’s their peers, their parents or other adults. Some children make this bad habit a routine, but the truth is that everyone, at some point in childhood, acts this way.

However, despite being relatively normal, it is not appropriate that we let this act go unnoticed. If the child bites, it is necessary to correct and avoid this attitude. It is believed to be part of her development and self-discovery. Likewise, it is an “advanced” defense mechanism, meaning what cannot be explained with words is explained by biting.

Usually the child bites out of frustration rather than out of aggression. In most cases she doesn’t want to hurt the other person, but maybe she just wants to express her displeasure. Childhood can be a difficult time for them as well as for parents.

What do I do if my child bites his little friends? How to face your parents? Do you need to punish him or make him apologize?

It is important to remember that children often do not fully understand adults’ attitudes. Many actions of the normative, moralistic or diplomatic type do not fit into children’s practices.

Discover the origin of this behavior

Your child bites for different reasons. This is behavior copied from other children. However, the main reason is your need to communicate. That yes, even when we understand what is happening and even though it is difficult, it is necessary that we censor this practice.

Parents and teachers are primarily responsible for correcting and preventing children from biting. At school it is commonplace for a father to appear complaining that his son was bitten by one of his peers. Therefore, sometimes the teacher is the first to act on the problem. 

It can be shameful and unsettling to be called to school by a teacher because your child has bitten one of your peers. It is normal for us to deny it and try to justify its action, but first of all it is necessary to correct it. It is important that you talk to your child and find the cause of this behavior.

Surely the child will feel ashamed. But how does a child show shame? Maybe you start crying, throw a tantrum, or want to kick and kick. Consequently, the reprimand can become more complicated.

Why does she bite?

As we said before, your reasons can be different. Among the main causes we find the following:

• The child bites because he tries to express his feelings. Something bothers her, doesn’t like or desperately wants something.
• It does not know its surroundings and the people who are in it.
• He is defending himself from some aggression practiced by other children. 
• If you are a baby, you may have pain in your teeth.
• It starts to be independent, which generates frustration due to its limitations. 

My son has a habit of biting, what should I do?

If several cases of bites have already happened, then we are fully aware that he bites and the reason for this. Now the next step is to know that you can avoid this through proper communication. Remember that he can bite without being fully aware of the consequences, but he may also not care. In any case it is necessary to intervene, prevent it from happening again, or at least moderate its behavior.

The following actions can help you control your child when he decides to go around biting:

• Talk to him, explain that this behavior is not acceptable. Remember to age-appropriate language so you can understand better. Share your feelings and those of the child who was assaulted. Say that this behavior will be punished and that you are very sad about it.
• We can impose some authority even though we avoid shouting and mistreating him. The reprimand must be immediate, you can punish him simply for depriving him of what he likes most. For example, limiting time for playing or watching television.

• Be sure to observe their behavior, the child is probably showing signs of discomfort or some other feeling that makes them bite. If you take a step forward in her behavior, you can prevent her from ending up biting.
• Try to make her avoid revenge in every way. On these occasions, children bite because they were bitten first or to defend themselves against another aggression. Prevent other children from biting her and explain how she can best defend herself.
• Maintain effective communication with teachers and caregivers, so that precaution is extended and that new disciplinary actions are applied.

It is not very difficult to prevent children from biting, because when they realize that this is not well regarded, they start to moderate and change their unwanted behaviors. In some cases it is enough to show the harm they are doing. However, the most important thing is always the love with which we correct them, so that they feel loved and understood.