What Are A Mother’s Biggest Fears?

We want to take care of our children for as long as possible. That’s why we are attentive to your every move.

As mothers, we always want the best for our children. Our care is excessive for many people, but only we really know  what a mother’s greatest fears are.

What are a mother’s greatest fears?

1. When the baby sleeps for the first time alone. When our child first sleeps in his own room, we are afraid that something might happen. Even though he’s only 15 steps away.
2. Let someone harm you. May he meet someone who hurts him or abuses him. So we try to teach you how to identify who might have good or bad intentions.
3. Who can develop a serious or terminal illness. We are always afraid that one day he might get sick and suffer.
4. May they take him away from us. The thought that someone might separate our child from us is also a great fear.
5. Some natural disaster that could tear us apart. When we see earthquakes or tsunamis in some countries, we cannot help but think of mothers who have been separated from their children.
6. That something can happen to us and that he be alone. Who could take care of him better than his parents? The possibility that something happens to us and that he ends up staying is just a recurring fear.
7. That doesn’t have self-love. That for some reason you don’t love yourself.
8. That I can’t be independent. This is also a very great fear and we can be somewhat guilty for creating it in a way that is very dependent on us.
9. That you can’t make your dreams come true. We want to support and be by your side so that you meet all your goals, and we’re afraid you might be disappointed.
10. And most importantly: whether he will be happy. Your happiness is something that really anguishes us, one of our greatest fears. We want him to be happy above all other things. 

Our care is always influenced by our fears. Fears that only mothers can fully understand. But when can we know if we’ve exceeded ourselves?

There is a syndrome called “Wendy’s syndrome” which is an excessive overprotection of the mother and this can cause problems for the child.

What is Wendy Syndrome?

Do you remember the story of “Peter Pan”? Wendy always watched over and protected Peter from anything that might happen to him. That’s what this syndrome consists of. The overprotection is so great that sometimes the mother, who represents Wendy, forgets about herself.

This does not mean that this syndrome is bad. But it can be detrimental to our children’s future.

Psychologists say that people who suffered from parental abandonment and emotional deprivation when they were young may suffer from this syndrome because they want to give their children everything they lacked.

Wendy syndrome symptoms

1. They always try to do all the chores around the house. They don’t want for anything in this world that their children wash dishes, clean or cook food…
2. They don’t want their children to have obstacles. Try to do all your responsibilities. For example, they organize the books they must take to school, they let them win at the games…
3. They are controlling and dominant parents. Always expect children to be obedient.
4. They always want to please others. They even renounce their own needs.
5. They always sacrifice for their children. They are capable of doing anything for them.
6. They flee from conflict situations. They don’t like problems, they always try to avoid them.
7. They take care of their children excessively. They always seek to take care of them and protect them from anything.

You can be a protective mother without becoming a “Wendy” mother. As mothers, we know what our biggest fears are.

But it’s important that our children have responsibilities, make their own mistakes and learn from their mistakes.

We often want to protect them a lot. But we can’t always be with them. Therefore, they must also learn to fend for themselves and solve their problems.

In the future, they will be independent and may suffer many inconveniences if they do not prepare themselves from an early age.