Learn To Delegate To Enjoy Motherhood
Motherhood can be a wonderful and rewarding experience, but it can also end up being exhausting and draining. And, in addition to being a mother, you continue to have a multitude of tasks and roles in your life.
You have a house to organize, a job to do, and probably some bond to cultivate. But most of all, you’re still a woman and you need to take the time to take care of yourself. Learning to delegate is essential to addressing all of these facets, and that’s why we want to help you achieve that goal.
To delegate is to allow someone else to perform those tasks that, in principle, we consider ours. Some people think that this is an act of laziness or negligence. After all, each person has to take care of their responsibilities, right? The point is that we often take on tasks that don’t necessarily correspond to us and that, moreover, could be done with more positive results if we accepted other people into the equation.
Do you know how to delegate?
Perhaps you are thinking that this subject is not about you, that it does not reflect the reality of your life. Perhaps you think that you are just doing your part and that there is no other way to organize things. But try to answer the following two questions.
First, do you feel that you are taking care of all the important areas of your life properly? Do you think that, in the way you have been organized so far, it is possible for you to develop on a personal, professional and social level, as well as on your mother’s side?
It is common to have the feeling that the hours of the day are scarce and that activities were not carried out. However, if you find yourself in the situation of being forced to neglect any one of these areas because of the time required by another, learning to delegate will be very beneficial.
On the other hand: if tomorrow you had to take a trip for a few days, would your home and family still function well without you? That is, would your kids normally go to school, would they know what extracurricular activities they have every day, and would household chores be relatively orderly?
If you cannot guarantee an affirmative answer, it means that you have become essential. And that, while it may sound comforting, explains the heavy weight you carry on your back.
Why should you start delegating?
Learning to delegate is not easy and it is one of the tasks to be done for many women who have already become mothers. It is very common to feel that no one will be able to take care of your home or your children like you, not even your partner. It is also possible that the other person is not willing to collaborate or that you simply haven’t reached any kind of agreement regarding the division of tasks.
Whatever the case, it’s important to find a solution. First, because taking care of everything can generate high levels of stress, anxiety and dissatisfaction. But also because this is harmful to the children themselves.
An oppressed and exhausted mother will not have the ideal conditions to care for her children and enjoy with them. On the contrary, if you are freer, you will enjoy a better physical and mental state.
Learning to delegate to gain quality of life
Delegating is not ignoring your obligations and even less your role as a mother, but allowing other people to participate in your daily life. So, some of the main steps you can take in this direction are as follows:
- You don’t have to be essential. You are already valuable and sufficient for yourself and no one will be able to replace you as the mother of your children. You don’t have to carry all the responsibilities on your back. Its value doesn’t depend on how much you make, so take a break and allow yourself to get help.
- Share household chores with your partner, both those related to the house and child care. But that’s not all: share all the responsibilities, the mental load and the organization as well, so that both can function independently if the other is not at home.
- Ask for help when you need it. You probably have a support network (family, friends, acquaintances) willing to help, and using it can greatly ease the burden. Feel comfortable taking advantage of this valuable resource.
In short, delegating will allow you to develop more fully as a human being and therefore better exercise your role as a mother. Forget about the image of the all-round woman and don’t forget that your well-being and peace of mind will have a positive impact on your children’s lives.
