How To Avoid Children’s Tantrums?

It’s very likely that when kids are in the throes of tantrums, the parents also get out of hand. But even these moments are terrible they  are an inevitable part of childhood, especially between the first and fourth year of life.

What can you do to prevent tantrums or to control them when they happen? Take a look at this advice, which is separated into nine very simple steps so that you know how to tackle at least one of them and come out victorious.

Step by step to control a bad mood

Step 1: Ignore

When your child throws a tantrum, his emotions are completely out of control in his brain. That is why  it is not convenient to try to rationalize with them in the midst of conflict. The exact moment the tantrum breaks out there’s nothing you can do to make things better. Wait until everything calms down before you can speak.

Step 2: Give some space

There are times when the only thing a child needs is to vent his negative feelings. If you ignore her, if you don’t confront her and allow her to cry and scream when she feels like it, you can allow her to let go of her anger without harming someone else.

Step 3: Discipline without physical contact

The next time you feel like slapping, take a deep breath and wait a few seconds to think about what you really want your child to learn. Generally, a word at the right time will have a better effect than a violent act, as you may feel guilty after a few minutes.

Step 4: Find out what causes the tantrum

Especially before the age of two children have a reduced vocabulary and it may be more difficult for you to recognize the cause of the problem. Before the tantrum starts, it is recommended to teach children some key words to express their needs, such as food, hygiene, play and attention.

Step 5: Embrace

It’s definitely the last thing on your mind when you have a childish tantrum. But during an episode of high spirits, a hug can help your child regain emotional stability, feel safe, and make sure she really matters to you, even when you don’t agree with her behavior.

Step 6: Offer food or rest

Being tired and being hungry are two of the most common causes of childhood tantrums: they are already indisposed and the simplest call for attention can unbalance them emotionally. Consider whether your child’s mood swings always show up before their afternoon nap or before lunch, perhaps it’s a coincidence. Make sure they are always fed on time, have enough rest and are well hydrated. With these conditions, they will be in a better mood.

Step 7: Encourage good behavior

If you have young children, you know that it is almost impossible for them to be relaxed during dinner or a visit. You should recognize what contexts are appropriate for your child’s age and encourage him when he behaves well, even if the circumstances aren’t comfortable for him. When you go to a social event that isn’t exactly appropriate for your child’s age, reward him with a game, a movie he likes, or anything else that motivates his good behavior.

Step 8: Speak calmly

This is perhaps one of the biggest challenges when a parent has to deal with a child with altered emotions. But it is essential that you remain balanced and stable to be able to influence your mood and not generate a worse conflict. Remember not to pay attention until he calms down, and when addressing him, keep your voice calm and relaxed. A proper conversation has better effects than a scream in a moment of euphoria.

Step 9: Don’t change yourself

It is quite normal for you to feel uncomfortable when you see your child throwing a tantrum in public, especially in front of everyone or in public, but getting upset is not one of the purposes of this situation. If you don’t pay the necessary attention to other people’s comments, your child will notice that you can’t get mad or bad behavior and will see that in doing so, he’s the one who wears out, because you keep yourself under control.