Exhausted And Powerless, But Happy
Exhausted, surrendered and without strength. This is how a father and mother feel when they finally put their children to bed. But, in the end, happy.
The tiredness one feels in daily child rearing is different. Even though every part of our body seems to be out of place, there is something that seems to pull us together inside. Something that builds and inspires us much more life than we had.
This feeling is called well-being. It is being fully aware that happiness is sharing and creating. We experience this feeling knowing that our children are doing well, that they grow up healthy and happy thanks to us.
Despite this, we must be aware that family life will not always be like this. It is important to know that as children mature, their behavior will also mature. And with that, a new series of obligations and challenges will arise.
Creation and education speak their own language, in which you never stop learning new terms. Sometimes we even say that we can’t handle everything and that we won’t make it through the day. But somehow we managed.
Almost without realizing it, we end up becoming experts, like giants who can see beyond. We anticipate risks and intuit needs. The creation phase may not be magical, but it’s a wonderful time.
More than the body, our mind is the one that tires the most
By the end of the day, we are extremely exhausted. Everything hurts: arms, legs and head. We also have cramps and sleep delays to catch up.
However, actually what intensifies this fatigue the most is our mind, or rather, our brain.
Hypervigilance stress
Sometimes, what causes the most fatigue is psychological pressure. Experts call it hypervigilance stress, which is similar to the stress that soldiers in war situations experience.
Both father and mother have a number of important obligations to their children. They must be aware of any circumstance and present in the face of any disagreement.
There comes a point where this situation can be toxic. Our lives change in such a way that we even stop worrying about ourselves.
Our priority is that fragile little creature that we must protect and love. The fear that something bad will happen can lead to fears and anguish. And this little kaleidoscope of emotions ends up generating enormous anxiety and fatigue.
Together we are exhausted but immensely happy
It could be that both parents work outside the home. It may be that they have arranged for one of the two to stay temporarily at home raising the children. In any case, one thing must be clear: education does not only come from one part.
Children do not have a single reference figure. There is nothing more wonderful than feeling part of each stage, contributing to every possible task.
Saying good night to our children is the icing on the cake each day. A magical moment that happens every day. This emotional bond with children is never forgotten as it builds positive memories and emotions.
Finally alone, finally a moment between you and me
When we are parents for the first time, we lose our intimacy a little or it ends up weakening. Love is still present, but sometimes the complicity in which the two can meet again is lacking.
That moment when the kids finally fall asleep is almost like a date with a partner. However, the mere fact of being exhausted can damage the magic: dark circles, tousled hair, old pajamas and toys thrown on the floor.
And yet, we feel full happiness . The well-being generated by good teamwork.
That’s when we immerse ourselves in endless conversations in which we talk about everything and nothing, dream about the future, hold each other’s hands and fall asleep. But, of course, always on the lookout if our children need us. Anyway, exhausted but happy.
